8 Ways to Ruin a Relationship—and How to Fix It in a Flash

  1. IT’S EASY TO RUIN A RELATIONSHIP…
    Just by talking about the negative aspects of my mate. Even thinking about faults can shift the energy, creating tension that lingers like a bad smell in the air. Sometimes, both people end up feeling awful, without even knowing why!

FORTUNATELY, IT’S JUST AS EASY TO FIX IT…
By remembering our happiest moments, appreciating what’s great in the present, and envisioning an even better future together. A little acknowledgment of positive behaviours goes a long way in rekindling the warmth.

  1. IT’S EASY TO MESS UP A RELATIONSHIP…
    Simply by talking about problems. The more we focus on issues, the bigger they seem to grow, our level of intimacy dissipates rapidly, and the distance between us feels wider than ever.

FORTUNATELY, FIXING IT IS SIMPLE…
By moving into solution mode—exploring ideas together, welcoming insights from others, and trusting that the universe is cooking up even greater solutions tailor-made just for us.

  1. IT’S EASY TO DIMINISH THE LOVE A RELATIONSHIP…
    By expecting something in return for what I give to my mate. Love isn’t about trading favours, compromising, or keeping score—it’s about free-flowing generosity. Keeping tabs can suffocate passion like taking a fish out of water!

FORTUNATELY, IT’S EASY TO CHANGE …
By honouring myself enough to give what I want, whenever I want, as often as I want, to whoever I want, and NOT expect anything in return. When I treat myself well first, love spills over to everyone around me, naturally, with no strings attached.

  1. THE QUICKEST WAY TO KILL A MAN’S PASSION…
    Is by insisting he put our relationship first above everything else—his mission, his hobbies, his friends, his work. A man’s purpose is as essential to his life as the air that he breathes. When he chooses to do it of his own free will, without prompting or guidance, well, there is not much on earth that compares to that feeling!

FORTUNATELY, I CAN CHANGE THIS FAST & COME BACK INTO MY OWN POWER…
By nurturing my own needs, by taking time out, by treating my body, by calming my mind, by soothing my soul, and reigniting my feminine energy, knowing this fresh new glow will most likely draw him in, closer than ever.

  1. THE QUICKEST WAY TO KILL A WOMAN’S PASSION…
    Is by expecting her to be calm, reasonable, and rational. (Yes, that will do it every time!)

FORTUNATELY, THERE’S A REALLY QUICK, EASY, AND FUN WAY TO FIX THIS…
Embracing her waves of emotion and intensity can spark the fire in a relationship in ways you might never expect. The variety she provides is like taking an incredible holiday in a brand new destination every day, for the rest of your lives.

  1. THE QUICKEST WAY TO ANNOY MY MATE…
    Is by trying to fix or change him. Nothing dims his vibe more than feeling like a “project.”

FORTUNATELY, THAT’S EASY TO STOP…
By remembering how it feels when someone tries to “fix” me or treats me like I’m flawed in some way! Let’s allow our mates be who they are without trying to steer or guide them. Time to give that up! Freedom feels fabulous.

  1. THE MOST COMMON WAY I PUT PRESSURE ON MYSELF…
    Is by trying to teach someone something they’re not ready to know, by trying to correct someone’s mistake when they’re not at the point of wanting deeper understanding, by offering help to another out of sympathy instead of through inspiration. Correcting, “helping,” or sympathizing, often comes across more like control than genuine care.

WHEN SOMEONE MAKES A MISTAKE…
It’s not my job to let them know, to correct them, to teach them another way. They’ll FEEL it. The natural vibration of life draws to us the same energy that we are putting out. I have faith that balance will be restored when I relax, step aside, and allow the universe to work its magic once again.

  1. THE QUICKEST WAY TO KILL EXCITEMENT IN A RELATIONSHIP…
    Is by requiring endless rules, commitments, and agreements. Needing too much certainty in a relationship reduces spontaneity, variety, and Passion.

PASSION IS ENHANCED…
By breaking the rules, by loving without expecting anything in return, by living on the edge, and by trusting that “who you really are inside” is enough to attract the most delightful and glorious outcomes.

It’s good to know that when I think I might have ruined something, that a simple change in attitude or approach can make it way, way, way, better than before. The power is in my hands, it always has been, and always will be. ~ from the author of 500 Confessions 

Shining The Light

I CAN INFLUENCE OTHERS

I find it empowering when I hold a vision in my mind of who I know someone really is, despite the behaviour they may be currently exhibiting and shine the light so brightly for them that they can do nothing else but see it too.

~ CONFESSION #441

How To Change Some Common Attitudes

These are some simple ways I made changes to my attitude on topics like business, relationships, friendship, mission, commitment, money, credibility, being successful, attractive, loved and being a good parent.

Once I realized how much better it felt to shift my attitude slightly like this, there was no going back … just forward, to the life of my dreams!

  • BUSINESS WAS … how can I generate the most income?
  • BUSINESS IS … how can I have the most fun?
  • A RELATIONSHIP WAS … how can I get my needs met?
  • A RELATIONSHIP IS … how can I BE, more of me?
  • FRIENDSHIP WAS … it’s all about who I’m with!
  • FRIENDSHIP IS … it’s so much more about “who I’M BEING” no matter who I’m with!
  • A COMMITMENT WAS … a vow I needed from another so I could feel safe.
  • A COMMITMENT IS … a vow I make with myself to regularly re-connect with my own deep inner security, no matter what the other is up to.
  • MONEY WAS … something I thought I needed so that I could have everything I want.
  • MONEY IS … something that just “breathes” in and out naturally, as a result of choosing to FEEL exactly how I want.

I love how that works, don’t you 🙂

  • CREDIBILITY WAS … something I thought I needed to earn, so I could be valued by others.
  • CREDIBILITY IS … something I declare privately I AM, so I can value myself first.
  • BEING ATTRACTIVE WAS … achieving an outward appearance that would make me feel happy.
  • BEING ATTRACTIVE IS … aligning with a happy inner radiance, that just makes me shine.
  • BEING A SUCCESS ONCE MEANT … proving to others how incredible I am.
  • BEING A SUCCESS REALLY MEANS … knowing so profoundly that “I am enough!”
  • BEING LOVED WAS … something I defined by how others were treating me.
  • BEING LOVED IS … something that just comes easily, when I treat myself well first.
  • MY MISSION WAS … to bring light to a dark world so I could prove my life had great value.
  • MY MISSION NOW IS … to thrive, to have fun, to find blessings, to feel joy!

“I’m not here to bring light to the world, I’m here to BE the light!”

  • MY JOB AS A PARENT WAS … warning my kids about problems they might face.
  • MY JOB AS A PARENT REALLY IS … encouraging them to listen to their own inner guidance, knowing they’ll find their own way much easier, if I get out of it.
  • CONNECTION WAS … something I needed to have with another so I could feel grounded and whole.
  • CONNECTION IS … a “feeling of oneness with everything” without needing to change anyone or anything else at all.

While I might not be able to change my circumstances immediately, I can change my attitude right now!

~ an excerpt from 500 Confessions Book 2

Real Freedom

I HAVE A LIFE OF TOTAL & UTTER FREEDOM …

No commitments!

No obligations!

No responsibilities!

“But they aren’t the ingredients of real freedom!”

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REAL FREEDOM is when I can make a commitment to a relationship and remember I’m free to focus on whatever aspects of the other person I choose and feel really good, no matter how they’re behaving.

REAL FREEDOM is when I can feel obligation to do work that may have lost it’s inner appeal but still know I’m free to focus on acknowledging the incredible outer benefits as well.

REAL FREEDOM is when I can be in a country where lots of things might appear as if they’re unjust, unconscionable and unfair but deliberately take the time to feel the freedom of imagining how they could be instead.

REAL FREEDOM is when I can live in a world where there’s tragedy, trauma and strife and realise I’m still free to enjoy the ever-present beauty of nature, the joyful laughter of children, the scent of a flower, the abundance of fresh air, the warmth of a smile, the conversations that uplift everyone and let myself settle into a feeling of appreciation for the dominant goodness that always abounds.

REAL FREEDOM is when I remember that I’M responsible for whether I’ll keep focusing on the problems or give my attention to solutions, whether I’ll get bogged down by concentrating on weaknesses or lift everybody up by expanding on our strengths, whether I’ll do things out of obligation or feel the freedom to do them because I’ve had fun finding ways to live life with joy, with appreciation, with eagerness, with positive expectation, with the love that I am – NO MATTER WHAT!

Elizabeth xox

How To Fall In Love All Over Again

TIP #59 – I ONLY HAVE ONE TIP ON HOW TO FALL IN LOVE ALL OVER AGAIN

Remember what it was like when you were blind to the faults, when you asked nothing of your mate, when you didn’t need anything to be different, when you just loved wholeheartedly because it was a natural expression of your inner soul? Find that place again and live there as often as you can! Not because you should, but because it’s who you really are.

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P.S. I love falling in love again and it’s totally up to me to find that vibe. What would YOU like to fall in love with all over again?

It Feels Good To Trust

TRUST IS A GIFT THAT I GIVE TO MYSELF … not the other person.

I trust my mate, I trust my kids, I trust my friends,

NOT because they’ve proved they’re trustworthy,

but because I deserve to go through life

with a sense of peace and serenity,

instead of being plagued by suspicion and doubt.

I know that things always work out perfectly for me

no matter what happens.

~ from the author of 500 Confessions

I Have Very High Standards …

CONFESSION #134 … I HAVE VERY HIGH STANDARDS FOR A RELATIONSHIP

But the standards I set are for MY behaviour, not for my mate.

I intend to flow as much love & appreciation towards him as I can, not because he deserves it, not because I feel obligated, not because I’m supposed to, not even because I made a promise …

… but because it feels like heaven to flow divine loving energy from my inside out & be more of who I really am. 

Leading A Relationship into the LIGHT – free

“Love is the most natural emotion of all.”

I’m not here to fix you, give you advice or tell you what to do. I’ve compiled this mini book because it’s been a benefit to me! The more I reaffirm what unconditional love really feels like, the more it’s enhanced my life incredibly, opened my heart wider than I even thought possible and renewed every relationship I’ve ever had, especially the relationship I have with myself!

I found inner fulfilment beyond my wildest dreams. I now know a real, a lasting and a sustainable love. I didn’t have to carefully choose the right mate or change the one I had. I didn’t need my kids to behave or to get them to see things my way. I didn’t have to forgive my parents or wait until they treated me better. I didn’t need to do anything differently or to ask anyone else to agree with me. It was much easier than that …

“I just changed my thoughts slightly, about what real love means!”

On the pages of this book are just a few simple words that when you read them, might soothe you into feeling a little bit better too, they might bring more clarity to your mind, they might open your heart wider and they might just take you even closer, to where you really want to go.

“AMAZING BENEFITS!”

I receive such amazing benefits whenever I write, I feel so incredibly high each time I give someone else what they need, I feel completely fulfilled right where I am … that anything else is just a delightful bonus 🙂

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There’s no expectation, no obligation, no need for appreciation, it’s simply a gift, from my heart to yours xox ~ from the author of 500 Confessions

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Tips To Make Life Easier – NEW EDITION

TIPS TO MAKE LIFE EASIER – living well, letting life flow, lightening up, laughing more, loving with all your heart!

Another Book Has Been Born

But you don’t need it!
You just need a willingness to feel better than you did before.
Life isn’t meant to be so serious!
It’s meant to be great fun.
There’s nothing here that you don’t already know!
The words in this book will just remind you of it.
You have everything you need!
It’s all inside you now.
It isn’t going to change your life!
Only you can do that!

But if something about it feels good, if something about it brings relief, if something about it seems right for you – then so it is!

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Many of your tips have been food for my soul. They’ve only created more Life and to enable me to create. I’m on my next adventure forward. It is Powerful, Amazing – Life is Easy and Gives me what I BElieve and Expect. Appreciate you heaps. – Dawn Schale

Your wonderful words help me to stay on track. – Gérald Arbour

Thank you. I really needed to read from your wisdom again. A lot of people have been pulling on me in different directions and it had an effect. I am truly grateful you showed up and reminded me of who I am and why I am who I am and how much I love my self for “Being” me. – Forrest Duckson

I’m trying to change me. These words of wisdom help so much. – Joanne Miller Turinese

You make difficult things very easy to understand and to do. ER. I love your tips. – Shaukat Charania

Here’s What You’ll Find Inside

Inside this book you’ll find insights that have been drawn from solving lifes problems, answers that have been inspired from questions that so many people ask, messages of encouragement to make you feel so much better and words of wisdom to help you “remember” your own inner guidance.

Just take a look through our Tips To Make Life Easier Category and find everything you need right there. ENJOY!

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I Have A Selective Memory

I have a selective memory for the things that bring me joy, for the feelings that still my mind, for the words that brighten my day, for the beauty that makes me smile, for the peace that warms my soul and for the love that fills my heart … You know that disagreement we had yesterday? I can’t even remember what it was about. My selective memory sorted that all out!

P.S. Isn’t it nice to be with someone who remembers who you are when you’re at your best and let’s the less desirable aspects be put to rest? I like to be that for others too. It makes me feel so good!

When You’re Not Sure What Someone Else Thinks

WHAT SOMEONE ELSE THINKS IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS

When I focus on being true to myself, thinking happy thoughts, having uplifting conversations and doing the things I am most inspired to do, there is no need to ask questions about what someone else might be doing, thinking or feeling.

What I AM thinking and feeling is the only thing that I can ever be certain of and is the only thing that ever really matters.

Elizabeth xox

How Can I Be Of Benefit To Others?

The greatest benefit I can be to my mate, my friends, my family and my clients, is to BE TRUE TO ME.

Sometimes that might look like I’m doing and saying things that no one else would dare do or say to them … but my job isn’t to keep them stuck where they are, my job is to soothe them OR prompt them, to move closer to who they really want to be.

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P.S. This makes so much sense to me. How does this approach work for you?

 

Releasing Resistance – FOR MEN

*RELEASING RESISTANCE* IS A BOOK & A WAY TO REDUCE STRESS.
“Releasing Resistance” is a 150 page book that takes you step by step through a series of 38 Highly Effective Leading Edge Processes, from Revealing your Silent But Deadly Beliefs, How To Make Things Happen Quicker, Beating Procrastination, Transforming Relationships, Overcoming Addictions to Starting Over so you can discover EXACTLY what’s been stopping you from having YOUR life, the way YOU want it!

 

before you set a new goal, why not do a 17 day process to release your resistance first. Then it's a given!

 

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Who is this book for?

Releasing Resistance is for MEN who generally know what they need to do, but just can’t seem to do it!

If any area of your life feels stagnant, stale or stuck, whether it be in a relationship, the lack of relationship, money, health, home, work, your body or your business, you will be given the tools to help you get momentum flowing in a positive direction, steadily, increasing in intensity, while gently raising your vibration.

This book not only helps you find out exactly what’s been holding you back but gives you a systematic way so you can effectively, easily and sustainable LET GO those pesky little resistant things once and for all and LET IN the big things you really want to manifest instead!

How long does it take for things to manifest?

As long as it takes for you to RELEASE THE RESISTANCE!

How will this book benefit me?

This book contains proven and highly effective processes to release resistance, so that you can find relief, peace, contentment and joy more often, more consistently and more sustainably, without some other person or life condition needing to change.

It also contains leading edge answers to some very common questions.

  • What to do when you want to have better relationships.
  • What to do when you need to overcome addictions.
  • What to do when you don’t have enough money.
  • What to do when you are desperate to lose weight.
  • What to do when you haven’t been able to get what you want.
  • What to do when you need to release the resistance.
  • What to do when you doubt your abilities.
  • What to do when you keep procrastinating.
  • What to do when you think you’re too old, too ugly, too tired, too stupid or too broken etc.

Most times we think that it takes BIG changes to improve our lives, when really it’s the little everyday habits that hold us back the most. Silent self-criticism, getting up in a rush, worrying about things that may never happen, doing work out of obligation instead of joy, eating things we know aren’t good for us, watching the news, telling people what’s gone wrong instead of celebrating what’s going right, feeding our fears, doubting our own capabilities, getting upset about world events that we can’t possible change … what this book does is make changing ourselves easy! With this series of simple but powerful processes, the change happens inside us, which then manifests in the world around us. It helps us feel more purposeful, more aligned, more determined, more empowered and more confident to go out and truly live the lives, we secretly dream of living.

Improving your life starts with modifying the most simple, everyday thought patterns that we’re giving energy to, often without realizing. It works like a light dimmer switch. If you switch the light from fully-on to fully-off, you notice the difference immediately. But a small negative thought practiced occasionally, just dims your life force over time. But it will get your attention eventually. By then, you will notice it through outer physical manifestations, like health issues, decreased energy, tiredness, accidents, relationship challenges, work dissatisfaction, emotional instability, mood swings, unhappiness, addictions and drama.

The empowering processes contained in this book, while often simple, quick and easy to fulfill, hold a high potential for positive personal expansion. The concepts you are about to practice, require a slight shift in focus, conversation and habitual action in order to create the space to receive the things you would prefer to manifest in your life instead. Sometimes the biggest shift occurs when we realize we’ve been working way too hard to get what we want, and all it takes now is to let go the struggle, release the resistance and allow it to be easy.

Expect to receive those shifts, in your awareness, belief system, identity, habits, emotions and most importantly, in your results. The recommendation is to set a time of about 17 days to complete all the processes, and to get the most benefit.

I’m truly looking forward to hearing about what’s worked for you and how you may have modified any of the processes to suit your individual situation.

What feels right for you matters,

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(AUTHOR of 500 Confessions and Releasing Resistance)

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Leading Myself Into The Light – free

LIFE IS MEANT TO BE EASY, AND FUN, AND EXCITING, AND FREE … and this easy to read mini book contains the most simple yet attitude changing statements that might help you feel better, wake you up, reaffirm what you already know or have you nodding your head in agreement.

I’m not here to sell you anything, to post affiliate links or to get you to sign up on a mailing list. Nor am I going to pretend that this book is normally worth $24.95 and you are blessed to get it for free … I didn’t write this because I thought you needed to read it, I wrote this to benefit me … and adopting the attitudes contained in this series of uplifting statements has helped me live a much happier life, created income out of thin air and renewed every relationship I’ve ever had, especially the relationship I have with myself!

I found simple ways to significantly improve the quality of my life in all areas, easily, effortlessly, speedily and with so many laughs along the way. I found inner fulfilment beyond my wildest dreams. I didn’t need to change my location, my mate, my job or win the lottery, it was much easier than that … I just changed ME!

“From falling in love to achieving success. From making money to changing the world. From solving other people’s problems to what makes a relationship really work. It’s all here, waiting patiently for you to receive it.”

There are no instructions or processes, no guidelines or steps, just a few simple words that might free your mind, lighten the load, get you back on track and take you closer, to where you really want to go. Enjoy! ~ From the author of 500 Confessions.

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